Hello. Sorry for the delay update. Been busy with life lately. Mr. C's also been the same.
So here was the question:
question here =] Itago nyo nalang ako sa pangalang anonymous19.. by the way bi ako lalake din sya.. 2nd yr. palang ata may gusto na ako sa kanya apparently may signs sya na may gusto rin sya saken.. friends kame upto now pero nagkakalabo lately..
Meron akong ka relationship when I entered my college life and I am very happy pero there are times na I want to be with him but not as friends.. Nagkaroon ako ng chances minsan na nasosolo ko lang sya lumabas but i wanted more..
Finally I decided that I wanted to move on and be happy w/o him.. May future plans nadin kme ng ka relationship ko.. I asked for a hug and a kiss from him for me to forget him pero naglet sya.. Then after a few days we came into communication and I said that I liked him but the conversation ended there.. Then I said sorry and I wanted to return the friendship that was lost.. Sabi nya maybe he could bring it back but he did not guarantee it.. Now friends kame and nagkakailangan kami ngyn.. Pinipilit kong maka move on and medyo naka move on na nga ako.. pero minsan hindi maiiwasan may konti pang natitirang pagtingin ko sa kanya.. Happy kame ng karelationship ko.. Love na love ko rin sya.. Right now mas matimbang sya sa akin..
Actually kulang nalang is magpakasal nlng kami =)) But of course mas matagal naman ung time and effort ko dun sa friend ko kaya frustrated parin ako upto now.. Andrama ng buhay ko noh?? Please comment on this..
Answer:
anonymous19,
when you said "apparently may signs na may gusto rin sya sakin". I guess this may be called a mistake, in my opinion. I'm sure you also know this, and I think you need someone to make you remember this: Because it can be called simply assuming things. Of course he'll be nice to you, do things for you, smile at you.. because you're friends. Friends are suppose to help each other. It may also be because you tend to give meanings to things which isn't suppose to be there in the first place.
Of course you wanted more things to happen, you have feelings for that guy. Time isn't enough because you enjoy things with him. You're caught up in the moment.
But I think when you asked for a hug and kiss from him was too much. It's like asking youre the one giving him a favor that you're forgetting him. You were to enveloped by your emotions that you didnt think about his feelings or what he will feel. When you like someone, you shouldn't obligate the other to do things for you. You must not forget that he didn't ask for you to like him. It may sound harsh but it's not his fault your suffering. Its not his fault that you like him. Also do you really think that if he hugs you and kiss you you would forget him?? no. that would only make matters worse.
Since you've been friends, yes, he may give you a second chance. But that doesn't mean it'll be okay immediately. Because really, he knows you still have feelings for him. Why want to be friends again? Simple: You think you cannot go on without him.
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Anonymous19, If you and your current partner are too much in love, dont you think its unfair you compare her to him? Are you convincing yourself that youre in love with her? When you said "mas matagal ung time and effort ko dun sa friend ko" or "mas matimbang sya sa'kin". If you really love a person, there should be no doubts who that person you want to be with. Also if it didnt work out with the guy in the first place, and also now that you're awkward with each other, what's the point of continuing youre friendship with him. Unless he declares he loves you back, leave him alone.
Now with your current girlfriend, what do you think she'll feel if she knew somehow you want to pursue yourself with a guy only if he wants you. You must also consider other people's emotions before acting.
hey hey yo yo i dont like your girlfriend... haha. shit! i'm fucked up. anyway, i got 8 words to say about that: ASSUMPTION IS THE MOTHER OF ALL FUCK UPS! got that from swordfish. anyway, love is always a risk, especially when friendship is involved. if its same sex, then double the risk and multiply by another tenfolds. its hard to judge this since i dont know the other person's sexual orientation. i have gay and lesbian friends, and seriously, i wouldn't appreciate it if there are sexual advances. of course, that's coming from a straight guy. giving hints of feelings is fine. that's nobody's fault, your sexual orientation is not your fault. but things you can control? that's another story. ask me and i'll say its taking advantage of your friendship. not cool at all. the same goes with opposite sex. and you being in a relationship does not give justice to it at all. of course that all changes if you guys are the adventurous type. though it doesn't seem the case. so, give it time. the other person might feel betrayed or used. and that's not easy to forget. in the mean time, give all the love to your girlfriend.
peace and love. - mr. c
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Couple of days ago, someone left a message in our tagboard asking a question regarding his personal life. He preferred to be called anonymous 19. He does not want his private info to be known (for when I followed the link, its empty). Here is his question:
question here =] Itago nyo nalang ako sa pangalang anonymous19.. by the way bi ako lalake din sya.. 2nd yr. palang ata may gusto na ako sa kanya apparently may signs sya na may gusto rin sya saken.. friends kame upto now pero nagkakalabo lately..
Meron akong ka relationship when I entered my college life and I am very happy pero there are times na I want to be with him but not as friends.. Nagkaroon ako ng chances minsan na nasosolo ko lang sya lumabas but i wanted more..
Finally I decided that I wanted to move on and be happy w/o him.. May future plans nadin kme ng ka relationship ko.. I asked for a hug and a kiss from him for me to forget him pero naglet sya.. Then after a few days we came into communication and I said that I liked him but the conversation ended there.. Then I said sorry and I wanted to return the friendship that was lost.. Sabi nya maybe he could bring it back but he did not guarantee it.. Now friends kame and nagkakailangan kami ngyn.. Pinipilit kong maka move on and medyo naka move on na nga ako.. pero minsan hindi maiiwasan may konti pang natitirang pagtingin ko sa kanya.. Happy kame ng karelationship ko.. Love na love ko rin sya.. Right now mas matimbang sya sa akin..
Actually kulang nalang is magpakasal nlng kami =)) But of course mas matagal naman ung time and effort ko dun sa friend ko kaya frustrated parin ako upto now.. Andrama ng buhay ko noh?? Please comment on this..
so there people. If youre kind enough to show concern, don't hesitate to comment. I do think he needs a some serious advice about this situation.
So there! So while waiting for comments I'll be getting my food supply first! 
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Ms. Cinnamon says:
ah! Finally an update. A really breezy, rainy day it is. Everytime I look out the window, it makaes me think mornings never came. Anyway, here's my response to the former questiom. Sorry it took so long though. Been busy with reality lately.
here's a question for your readers. what if a guy likes you and you like him back but the thing is, you work together and you're his boss.. should you push through with the relationship or should you stop because it might bring complications to your work?
Even if those people stop right now, i'm sure it had already created complications to their work, just like the reason why this question was being asked. the real problem here is,
is the guy worth it?
The things with office guys (from what I know) is they are usually bored with what they do. that is why they search out for love affairs. But it all actually differs basing on how the boss was able to to know the guy at all or how were you able to come at this stage aside from the fact that they officemates.
Is he sweet?
Does he open the door for her? (i do assume it's a her)
Does he smile at her when their project failed?
Has he ever seen her cry?
Those are the questions that gives answers to what situation they're in.
Maybe the boss should make a make or break deal. If she said to him, "okay, let's be together, but you will not be receiving any favors from me in the office or any work-related suggestions". If the guy said fine and he continued to be fine the next following weeks then he is a great catch. But if he suddenly changes, well, I hope you got the point.
Also the other question is, who loves the other the most? Could she tell right now? I know this may sound unfair, but they could actually answer this with, "oh we're pretty much the same". But could the boss answer that without any hesitation? Real love at these days is hard to see. So I can't necessarily answer the question. Or even if I answer the question, I'm not sure either if she'll follow me since we're just two individuals who happen to come across in the net. But here's the deal, is the boss sure he's worth it? I mean really, really sure? If she say yes, is this a consistent yes that even if they're both in deep sh*t, she can still yes?
Then if that's the case. Then, why not? The only thing that'll be gone is her work. OR his work. I'm sure they'll be able to find a new one anyway.
Mr. Cinnamon says:
Ironic that I actually have a different view from that of Ms. Cinnamon-flakes. I guess that pretty much sums up my answer. Though I would encourage thinking it over too. See, the thing with most guys, we are overly insecure. It may not show, but we are. Not to mention that contrary to popular beliefs, men are actually the more dramatic in the human specie. Of course, the key word here is MOST. Not all men are the same afterall. You hear men say I want somebody who can bring out the best in me. But that doesn't mean competition. Believe me, the sense of a superior female brings both fear and insecurities to most men. We are an utterly ironic, chauvinist pigs. So, the real questions are whether you can work it out both professionally and romantically, if so, then there really isn't any reason not to do it. Yes, even if the company does not allow such arrangements.
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so for our first question,
"ano dapat gawin sa mga walang kwentang boyfriend matapos mong ibreak?"
"What are the things left to do after you've broken up with a worthless boyfriend?"
Mr Cinnamon-Flake says:
so, we have gathered some very interesting answers for this one. sadly there's not much from the male specie except sublebliss and me, but because, miss cinnamon-flake here accepted a long time ago that she is commited to a homosexual, that leaves him as the only male respondent. yes, folks, borrowing from rustom padilla's now maggoty line, "i have no choice, i'm gay..." wahahaha. so the answers range from just cutting all connections to forgiving and forgeting, seriously, cutting all ties and pretending it never happend may be a pretty good thing, however, it may very well damage and possibility of healing that wound. and being friends? sounds good, but come on?! you'll be friends just like that? its going to take some time before you can even forget about it. seriously, i think forgiving is a possibility, but forgetting is a different story. now getting a better man would be nice. but that man being some piece of furniture just to make the piece of shit piss his pants in agony is unfair. well, maybe if its sam milby or piolo pascual it won't. i hope nobody smells my sarcasm there.
anyway, while i do agree that leaving him alone and let him drool to death after making him realize how stupid of an idea leaving you was, that doesn't really give you that closure unless you do it on a level that allows you to tell him how much of an ass he was with matching good slap heard around the world. i think this is the closure everybody needs when ending a relationship on a sour, rather bitter note. now, that's just for closure alone, when you talk revenge, that's another story. i really think revenge is not proper, afterall, there are things that you shared, and while it cannot be said in every relationship, mostly because i don't know every relationship, therefore, not in the position to tell, you probably both enjoyed at least some of the things you did. be it spending the night together cuddling in bed or just watching a lame-a** movie. and this i think should be enough to cover for whatever pain is caused by the break up. now, if you feel it is not enough, there are very creative ways, like send a package or a letter with all the silliest things he did. that should kick his ego out of his arse. but my personal advice, follow the ones from the movies, kill bill's got "revenge is best served cold." while george herbert said, "living well is the best revenge." try mixing it up and he'll loose his head trying to figure out a way to win you back. of course, it gets better when you shove it down his throat, "not in a million lifetimes, you piece of worthless shit!"
Ms Cinnamon-Flake says:
The comments have been great in my opinion. they're right, eat some ice cream, pamper yourself, do the things you weren't able to do last time. Since you mentioned he was worthless, it was right to say by the readers to say to cut all the connections and not mind him anymore.
but you must make sure its not just the angry part of you who's talking.
well first of all, consider it as a lesson learned. and as training as well on how to deal with people. you see, if with this, it didnt work out, think what are the things that would the next relationship better. its like looking how your past relationship changed you and made you a better person. what are the things you learned, what are the things you weren't able to do (if there is) and how you can prevent this from happening on your next relationship. youve been able to encounter this kind of guy and if he really is the worst then that should give you some idea what are the body language or way of thinking of other guys that would try to win you over. also see it as a great opportunity for a better relationship. I know everything that had happened wasn't really all that bad, but then again, most of it was bad that's why it didn't work out.
to cut it all short: you now know how to deal with a bad guy, so you should know how to find a better one. now that youre in a vulnerable stage, read this: dont go immediately at the next guy who's nice to you. erase the enamor for the mysterious guys!
p.s. Mr C is right, slap him haha
a pretty tabulas user named cris asked us guys a question about her office troubles.
Here it is:
here's a question for your readers. what if a guy likes you and you like him back but the thing is, you work together and you're his boss.. should you push through with the relationship or should you stop because it might bring complications to your work?
Btw, her nice page where she brings out her thoughts greatly may be found at
~meteorglitter<---click :)
So guys, let's help Cris so we can bring the 
back to her and lessen her troubles!
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